So here I am celebrating Mother’s Day – sort of. Head of House is working so without him to pile on the guilt, Mother’s Day is not what you would call a priority here. Still Fruit of Womb One is home from York University so that is nice. Neither of the sprogs are guaranteeing to spend the whole day here – there’s no point being ridiculous about it.
So, left to my own devices, I was musing on Parenthood – the movie not the vocation. It’s one of my favourite films. I love Steve Martin – he is a genius. That is not an invitation to debate. That is a fact. I am unmoved in this opinion despite the strange changes there seem to have been to his face recently. Anyway, there are several key scenes in the film that perfectly capture what it is to be a parent. This is one of those moments. Kevin is an insecure child who hates playing in his baseball team because there’s so much pressure. And when the ball goes towards him, the panic his father feels is only matched by his joy when the ball is caught.
It’s so good because that’s how it is when you are a parent. A great chasm of love opens up that you can do nothing about. Sometimes it’s as painful as it is joyful but that is irrelevant. Parents are completely caught up in their children with no hope of escape. You have probably heard the phrase “I am only as happy as my unhappiest child. ” and I think that is true. (I tried to find out who said it originally but couldn’t find anything. Well I Googled it and it wasn’t in the first three answers.That’s what passes for research as far as I am concerned) There are exceptions to this I know but I am only speaking from experience and it is an extraordinary and powerful experience.
Maybe the most “successful” Christians are those who manage to get hold of how this translates into the Fatherhood of God. Imagine someone completely caught up in you. Sharing your joys, troubles and heartbreak as if it were their own.
Then Jesus said to them, “Do not be afraid. Go and tell my brothers to go to Galilee; there they will see me.”
These words from Matthew are some of the first words that Jesus speaks after the resurrection. Look and think about the phrase “my brothers”
I don’t know if you do meditation. It got a bit of a bad press when I was a young Christian – being associated with yogis who were apparently showing the Beatles the path to enlightenment while secretly trying to put their hand on Mia Farrow’s leg.
Put all that behind you though and try to meditate about this phrase and all that I think Jesus is deliberately saying about Christians here.
MY – implies family, belonging, strong connection and intimacy.
BROTHERS – if he is the son and we are his brothers then we too are sons, family and belonging. It’s who were are.
It nothing to do with how we feel. It’s who we are. It’s un-caused, un-earned. It’s how a family is supposed to be.
Have a great week everyone.
PS Head of House is unimpressed by effect the Cloonster getting arrested for very important and heroic stand is having on female members of the family. Head of House knows nothing.